If you are in a relationship and have concerns with issues such as communication, emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy, ongoing conflict, fidelity, rebuilding trust, and setting boundaries, couples counseling can be invaluable.
The approach that I am using in my work with couples is called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Developed over the past several decades by Dr. Sue Johnson, this approach is based on the importance of attachment in intimate relationships at all stages of the life cycle. Think about how sensitive we are when we are criticized by our partner or spouse, how pleased we are when we are praised and valued by that person, how devastated we feel when that same person yells angrily at us or turns away from us in resignation, annoyance or even disgust. Our attachments are crucial, and when there is disruption in our most important relationship, we hurt. EFT is an extremely compassionate and effective approach to helping couples feel safe enough to engage with each other and to work towards achieving genuine healing in their relationship.
Joan Elkin Madison